Saturday, November 7, 2015

Learn with Joy: Why We Do What We Do


"If there is one thing we can give you all, our children, that'll be education." Those were the words I heard from my parents when my siblings and I were just littles. We are not wealthy but our parents made it a point to send us to school, good schools for that matter. So, I grew up  valuing education and its benefits. I told myself at the time, "When I have my own kids, I'll make sure to send them to the best schools in the country." After completing one college degree, I even pursued a Certificate in Professional Education and took a licensure exam to become a licensed educator. Fast track to today, I am now married with a precocious daughter in tow. However, my idea about education has changed a lot. It is no longer about being accepted to big and "best" schools. It is more about the quality of education that we (my husband and I) would like our daughter to attain.

My husband and I decided to homeschool our only daughter (yeah, only daughter and to be homeschooled, quite a recipe for "socialisation problem" huh?) the moment we had her. We want to give her the best and like every first time parents we want to give her the "world". I started asking family friends about homeschooling and although not all the ones we asked are familiar (and agreeing) with homeschooling, there is a missionary couple who gave us an idea on how they did it. The more I seek, the more I got interested and the more I learned about it. Thankfully, a lot of parents nowadays are opting to homeschool their children. There are also hundreds of blogs about homeschooling that are indeed helpful and useful.

After much prayer and contemplation, "against all odds", we took the less traveled road. To be honest, it's not always a walk in the park. Just like what other homeschooling parents say, (hashtag) "the struggle is real". It really takes a lot of strength and grace from the One who made it clear to us that this is the path we're going to take; it takes commitment and dedication on our part. But why still do what we do?

We Acknowledge that we are God's stewards.
My husband and I have always said that "we are owners of nothing but stewards of everything", and that includes our daughter. Being entrusted with a precious gift, we must prove ourselves faithful to Him. As stewards, we want to make sure that we are giving our daughter what we ought to give her, not holding back what is due her. Homeschooling her is accepting that we have been given a responsibility and taking care of what the Lord has charged to our care.

We want to give the "Best" to our daughter.
Every set of parents will agree, I know, that our (yours and ours) offsprings deserve the very best. As I have mentioned above, as parents, it's like we want to give the "world" to our children. Not that I could literally give the world to my daughter but it's the desire for her to receive the good things in life. The best may not always be the most expensive. It could be something that comes from the heart knowing that it's "all of you" offering it and using it for the well-being of someone. Homeschooling my daughter is giving all of me to her. A lot of people have asked me why I opted to stay at home, breastfeed my daughter and homeschool her when in fact I could have chosen to pursue a career and live my dreams. And when I tell them, "This is my career. I am living one of my dreams by being with my daughter," most of them would shake their heads in disbelief. I know it sounds crazy to them but to me and my husband, specially to my daughter, it says, "We love you that's why we give you our very best."

We believe that Character formation and development begins at home.
It is my belief that the heart of education is the education of the heart. A person with a knowledge-filled brain may succeed at first but won't necessarily endure. However, an individual with the right character will definitely survive in this broken world. More than loading her brain with a plethora of information, we would like our daughter's heart to be filled with experiences that will shape her heart to live for God, that is, produce a character that is approved not only in the sight of man but most importantly in the eyes of God; a character that is strong enough to stand for what is right, true and moral; not influenced by peer pressure nor agitated by unfavourable circumstances. I am not saying my husband and I are perfect enough to be able to do this. No, in fact, we're just ordinary people with perfect imperfections. However, I know that by and with the grace of God in our lives, we will accomplish it.

We desire our daughter to be a Disciple of Jesus. 
As believers and followers of Jesus, we would like our daughter to have the same relationship with our Lord Jesus Christ. I firmly believe that it's the best legacy we could leave her. When we homeschool, it's not just the facts that we share but the faith as well. The Bible says, "Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it" (Proverbs 22:6).

We aspire to Excellence in education.
Every Filipino child deserves not just education but a quality education. That has been my "mantra" as an educator. As a homeschooling educator and parent, I know my husband and I will be able to give our daughter the quality of education we would like her to get. There will be no pressure to strive for perfection but encouragement to pursue excellence.

These are just some of the many reasons why we do what we do. If you noticed (I hope you did), I gave you our A to E reasons :). Hopefully, I'll be able to add some more sometime.

How about you? Are you a homeschooling mom/dad too? What are your motivations in doing so? I would love to hear from you! :)



21 comments:

  1. I support your decision to homeschool.As for the socialization I think relatives and neighbors could be your child's buddies.I don't know if I'd consider it in the future because my daughter is still a baby but I think you pointed out valid reasons for homeschooling.

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    1. Thank you, Mommy Madz. You are right, socialization doesn't just happen among children of the same age; my daughter socializes well with her Sunday School classmates, playmates and adults as well. :)

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  2. I am also thinking homeschooling my son. Thanks for posting this, it gives me an idea why homeschooling is good for our child.

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    1. My pleasure! Thank you for dropping by. :)

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  3. Yeah, homeschooling is another form of educating our children. If you are capable of doing it, why not. Cheers to you mommy! :)

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  4. I'm hats off to those parents who are homeschooling their children. It's not an easy job and really admire those dedication to give the best to their children.

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  5. :) Homeschooling has its challenges, but the rewards are greater. Here's to us homeschooling families!

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    1. Indeed! Thank you for dropping by, May! :)

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  6. Hello Alemars Joy! Wow, I'm looking forward to your F-Z reasons. Hehe. Seriously, there are a lot of reasons why we homeschool our children and we all have our unique and own motivations to pursue this "mission". Thanks for sharing your journey. I'll repost this on my blog's FB page, Alemars ha. Miss you!

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    1. Alemars! Miss you too! :) Sure! My pleasure! Thank you much! :)

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  7. What a beautiful post. I salute you who homeschool your children! :)

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  8. Nice entry. I have not thought about homeschooling my daughter. I guess I am afraid I will not be able to teach her everything that a student can learn in school.

    Xoxo
    MrsMartinez

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    1. That's understandable. However, there are homeschooling groups that I believe will be able to help should you consider homeschooling your daughter. :) Thank you for dropping by! :)

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  9. Planning to homeschool my little one when he's on the right age na. Hopefully by that time I can sahm na. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Yeah, that'll be great! Thank you for dropping by! :)

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  10. I like the idea of homeschooling, but too bad I never get to try it with my small children because of my demanding work schedule at work. Luck you, I guess! :)

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  11. We are also planning to homeschool our only (for now? haha) daughter. She's Catholic but we are not practicing our religion. Our main motivation is that we want to be the main influencers in her life -- after all, we only get one shot at parenting, right? So we want to make the most out of it. Of course, we'll still honor her decision if she wants to go to traditional school. Hopefully she won't. :)

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  12. i support and admire you! its not easy :)

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